juz got home after spending 3 hours listening and chatting with my aunt near my place. the issues she always wanted to talk to me about never depart from my
dada. my entire conversation with her led me to think about the importance of all of us learning to take responsibility over our lives, since most tend to victimize ourselves.
to a certain extent,
i'm personally still living the consequence and result of the mistakes my parents made. for one was what happened a decade ago. it would be unfair for me to pass judgment on them since what i know is purely based on testimony and the so-called 'facts'.
but what i really want to say is that many people who are in my shoes could have used their parents' divorce as an excuse and victimized themselves, relieving themselves of their responsibilities in life. it is not surprising then why
ppl blame the majority of juvenile delinquency on their family background. and subsequently, these delinquents end up being engaged in a vicious cycle where they struggle with love and esteem, manifested through the things they do, and possibly crimes.
seriously, no one owes anyone a living. victimizing oneself is putting on a mindset that i am like that because of someone else and that i am just but a victim. by doing that, we are just rendering ourselves into a position whereby we view ourselves as powerless and incapable to effect changes into our lives to make it better. and everything spiral downwards and you will just be a person of circumstances when one chooses to be a victim.
if i were to victimized myself
every time things happen, God knows what would have happened to me? it would really be unthinkable. i could have ended up as some ah
lian on the street or maybe a nut case in
IMH. but yet through it all,
every time when a situation arises, it is a decision-making time of whether i am going to take responsibility for myself in the situation or
i'm just going to blame the
ppl who caused it to happen. responsibility for myself does not mean responsibility for the circumstances, unless you are the one who caused it. many a times, we cannot control what happens to us but what we can do is control how we react, and this is where responsibility for self comes in.
as things happen, i make it a point to pray, read the word and talk to wise people. praying releases the burden of whatever that i may be facing and renew my strength to move on as i seek God. reading the word allows for the Spirit to speak encouragement to me through the verses. and talking to wise people keeps you sane, gives good advice and will be there to support you through. and of which, i am thankful to God for my leaders and friends. all these have helped me in overcoming issues like insecurity and emotional instability although i may struggle with them at different points in my life, it no longer hinder me from what i can do in my life.
take responsibility for our own lives is of utmost importance. by putting the blame on other people and saying that they caused me to be so is a lame excuse for being irresponsible. you are responsible for your own life and no one can manipulate you or force you to do
sth simply because God gave us free will. by not learning how to take responsibility for our lives, we are just hiding away from the world and will just live a life of defeat for the rest of your life. it is only when you learn to take responsibility for yourself in whatever situation you are in, trusting God to bring you through it all, then will you begin to live an enriched life where you will see your defeat become victory, your stumbling block a stepping stone and bless others by the testimony of your experience (you never know who is
gg thru the same thing).
let's all learn to be responsible youths and not victims of this failing world, helping each other to grow into people of destiny and being vessels of love and esteem builders to the peoplearound, whoever may need it...
love never fails...
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