something that has been on my mind is how do we set the appropriate boundaries.
boundaries when set right fosters healthy relationships and enriches our lives.
and when not drawn, it can only result in loads of frustration, resentment and fatigue.
the failure of acknowledging the right boundaries has got me into a lot of trouble over the years.
firstly, was the martha spirit. serving endlessly, trying to meet the needs of everyone, solving every single problem in the nick of time. it only got me really tired and worn out in the end.
now having learnt my lesson, i celebrate being able to sleep at least 6 hours a day on average.
and in turn, i am more fruitful and productive in my day, making sharper decisions instead of haphazard ones. looking back, i am still bearing the consequences of the decisions i made during those times. but the good thing is that things can only get better from now.
secondly, is in the area of human relationships (not that i have them with animals of any kind).
this is a really complicated area to set boundaries.
some guidelines i have been following are using words to define relationships, esp to guys.
with the terminologies of friends and brother, i expressly indicate that there isn't a possibility of anything now or even in the future. things can only remain status quo.
in other words, I AM NOT INTERESTED!
but then, i realized that it isn't enough cause some people just don't get it.
isn't it obvious when things happen in my life, you are not part of it?
i made mistakes on my part when i open up too much at times. i really need to work on this area of my life. but being open is just second nature to me. i'm willing to give almost everything a shot, but obviously, a bgr is defintely not one of them.
and the martha spirit has worked against me as well. being always ready to lend a helping hand, i stretched it out everytime there was a call. learning to draw back and leave people to fend for themselves. this only applies to guy acquantainces and friends since i've learnt that they tend to have quite a fertile imagination even if you do nothing to water them.
but thank God, in the midst of learning to set my boundaries, my heart has now calmed down and no longer has space for any other but God, my family, members, close friends and kids. there can be no other that i'm allowing to occupy the whole of my heart except for one and that Jesus. i am going to be focused and live my dreams and reach my highest calling - a business to run, a kingdom to grow, a scholarship to get, a culture to start and a generation to change.
looking back, i probably made some inappropriate choices in my emotions the past few weeks but yet there were many things that i learnt. i have experienced emotions and things that i would never have imagined that i would experience. and that has now placed me in a better position to help others. the turmoil and struggles of it all has helped me to become stronger as a person. i don't regret having gone through it but just wonder how i could have better handle it and not end up in the state that it is. life is too short to be living in regrets.
bu guan tian chang di ju, zhi zai hu chong shi de guo mei yi tian...
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