had mastering communications class today. we discussed on how perceptions of ourselves affected how we relatd to the people around us and the list goes on. we went on to gender communication, talking about if we should be androgynous in the way we talk.
ms lee commented that we should seek to be as androgynous as possible when we communicate, meaning to communicate to another individual as a person, not taking on any gender specific stereotypes. this is excluding situations whereby people are dating. what was rather astounding to me was her addition that dating is a game and all should play by the rules of it in communicating. or maybe someone should change the rules?
is dating really a game? it seems that there are people that do take it to be so. to some, it could probably be a chance of trial-and-error of if a person is the ONE. to some, it is the game of being socially 'in'. and to some others, they just like the game of 'catch', in getting someone. a friend of mine commented that one should at least have ten different ex before tying the knot. is he the exception or the norm? that is something i'm still figuring out.
but to be fair, i do have friends i know who is very serious in who are they getting themselves attached to. they put in time to consider the qualitites of the person they want and not forgetting about considering how ready they are in being a greater part of someone else's life.
end of the day, there would always be a 'social pressure' that is present to get into a relationship. in family gatherings, i am pretty used to hearing my aunts asking my older cousins when are they going to get attached or married. among friends, there are talks of personal crushes and also about 'helping' some of those that are still single. but end of the day, when we are on the verge of getting together with a person, is it due to social pressure or is it because we are ready to embrace someone into our lives in a more intimate level?
i pray that we will learn to value relationships more and not just take it as a game as some are probably doing - a game to fill the emptiness of their hearts. when each of us learn to value our lives more, then we would put in more consideration into what we do, understanding the value of that which we do.
for those that are still single, don't be in a rush to get hitched. i believe that there is a time and season for everything. and with every credit, singlehood is a GIFT! it is a time that you are free to do what you want without having to be accountable to anyone. and more importantly, a time to embrace girl-friends for girls and boy-friends for guys., let's learn to take time and choose the best and not compromise because of impatience and 'pressures'.
what you value, you treasure...
Labels: relationships, thoughts on lessons
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